record mainly Exhibit-3, that is a copy of the letter from the plaintiff to the respondent that the appellant was willing to give a mutual divorce to the respondent which clearly belies the claim of desertion and lack of any intention to revive the matrimonial ties. It appears that the wife has self-respect and demonstrate it when she denied to accept the amount of Rs.1,000/- as maintenance. However, she was willing to accept the money provided it was paid for her ‘pocket expenses’. In fact, the evidence would show that on 16th December, 2000, she went to the matrimonial home. At that time, admittedly, the petitioner was not at home. One would have expected her mother-in-law to come forward and accept her with an open arm and make all attempts to pacify her. Instead, we find that the wife of the second brother of the appellant alleged to have handed over few documents that the respondent needed and it was alleged that she requested the respondent to have a dialogue. However, the younger daughter-in-law was never produced as witness. The statement of the mother-in-law to that extent is hearsay. Admittedly, the parties are living separately for over twentythree and half years. The wife is personally present before us and she said that notwithstanding the differences that she had with her husband, she is willing to revive her matrimonial ties. The husband is not willing to revive the matrimonial relationship for the reasons that he has faced mental torture. Cruelty whether mental and physical has to be proved. It must appear from a course of conduct and gravity of the incident.